After a number of years after the end of a long term relationship, I’m feel like I’m ready to get back into the dating pool. It’s been a long time and it’s a different world in many ways from being single in my mid 20’s on the late 1980’s. Back then, you’d go out to clubs or parties and see if you could meet someone new or get introduced to someone by a friend.

Nowadays, we’ve gone from the simple dating sites like to a hyperlinked world with everything from Facebook to Grindr to LinkedIn to even more specialized sites. No matter where you see someone, you’re bound to see them somewhere else to. Recently, I started chatting with a someone online, and then noticed that he also popped up as a mutual friend of a friend on Facebook. Upon clicking on his profile (which I couldn’t completely see because he had set his privacy settings right), I saw that we had 17 friends in common.  Talk about coming with references!

Seems like the old way of getting introduced is still working, but the other way around.

What does this have to do with job seaching?  Everything.

We all have a digital presence now, and you not only need to manage that, but also figure out who the people are that you need to be connected to on order to be introduced (or bump into) their professional colleagues. Also, as you are so connected, they have people who know you and can get the real dirt on you.

Do you know what they’re saying? And is it what you want them to be saying?

You’re going to be trusted more if people know the sane people you do. If there are places where you want to work, make sure you hang around with the people there so the get to know you and refer you to other when they hear of an opening.

And who knows? You might end up with a date too.