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Yesterday was the deadline for the contest for a free registration to Singles Weekend at Easton Mountain, and I’m happy to announce that there are two winners! While all the entries were great, these two really expressed why this will help them in moving forward in their lives, and they also did some of the extras that were mentioned in the contest rules.

Please congratulate William Adriance of Bronx, New York and Jeff Cumming of Dorchester, Massachusetts who will be attending Singles Weekend courtesy of Resonare Consulting and the Spirit/Work Connection. With their permission, I will share some of their words on this blog later.

Thanks to all the other men to sent in their registrations, and I wish that I could offer this great opportunity to everyone.  I will be having future contests and announcements of other events in the future, so keep reading this blog to find out!


As of Wednesday, September 23, the northern half of the globe will start to have fewer light hours in the day than dark. The weather is starting to get chillier (I put on a light sweater for the first time yesterday morning) and those of us in the northern part of the country start thinking about the possibility of winter (but not yet! We still have more summer to live!). As a person of Swedish decent, I seem to crave the sun. It could also be because of my northern-facing apartment and office. If I don’t go out and find the Sun, it doesn’t find me.

It’s also a time of balance. The Earth is about to tip on a different direction, and we have the opportunity to look at balance in our own lives. Am I having too much of one thing and not another?  I’m thinking that I need more play time, especially in the music and dance area. I also need to be more balanced in taking care of myself physically. I know that I don’t get enough sleep, and I have to get back onto my exercise and eating regimen, as I put on about 12 pounds in the past year since my hospitalization.

As many of you know, I’m also just getting past the anniversary of my Mother’s death. It’s been a hard year, and I’m glad that I’ve finally moved on from having the “first” time of each event without her. I know that she’s in a more comfortable place now, and I have only the future ahead of me to do all the things that would make her proud.

So, what do I do now that’s it’s getting darker?  For me, it seems like an opportunity to kind of “woodshed” myself. In other words, I’m going to work on myself and try to improve me for the new unveiling in 2011. Can I be more loving of myself and others?  Is it time that a relationship will come into my life, and am I ready to welcome it in?  Can I be looking better in a bathing suit next year that now?

As we wrap ourselves in warmth over the next six months, how are we baking, and what kind of delicious dish are we going to turn up as?

What’s your recipe?

P.S. Remember there are only two more days to enter for the free weekend at Easton Mountain!  Make sure you register by Friday!

Last year, I won a basket at the silent auction at my church, First Parish in Cambridge Unitarian Universalist. It was a “Man’s Basket” and along with the great tie rack and really cool scarf, I also got a gift certificate to Le Pli Spa in Harvard Square for a manicure and a pedicure.  This is something I’ve never done and was really intrigued to have it done.

Now I’d normally never spend this much money for something like this (a $60 value!) but I’ve heard lots of women in my life talk about getting there nails done. Finally, I made the appointment and went this past Monday. I was the only customer st the spa, and was the last appointment of the day.

Now, those of you who have had it done talk about how it’s pampering and relaxing. I was looking forward to it.

What did I find for myself? Not relaxing at all.

I was interested in what was happening, what the attendant was doing, what tools she was using, and having to hold my hands and feet at particular angles so she could do her work.  It felt relatively nice and, who knows, I might do it again, but I’m not going for the relaxing factor.

So, what did I get out of this? Well, I noticed that my feet felt nicer when I was going home, and I’m sure my nails are in better shape.  I also found out that I can get this done for a lot cheaper than going to an expensive spa (if I do it again).

This makes me think that many times in our career lives, we make assumptions about what life a certain job, employer, or co-worker is going to be like, and we create stories about them without having all the data.  Once we actually experience it, we might feel quite differently. I’m always telling people who have big dreams about a career to actually get to know the reality of it before you invest too much energy in it.

What stories to you have about things not being all you thought they would be?

PS – Remember to let people know about the contest for a free weekend at Easton Mountain.  Deadline is 9/25/10.  Go to for all the information about applying!

Hello all,

Below is a YouTube video that I’ve put together to let people know about the contest to win a free weekend at Easton Mountain.  Please share and let people know about this!

Contest Rules:
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In collaboration with Easton Mountain, I am giving away a free weekend at their Single Gay Men’s weekend this October 8-11, 2010 (a $595.00 value!) As those of you who have read my blog know, my experiences at Easton Mountain over the past two years have have been nothing short of life changing, and I want to offer this opportunity to others as well.

The rules are:

  1. You must have never participated in a program at Easton Mountain. This opportunity is to introduce new men to the magic that is Easton.
  2. You are responsible for your own transportation to and from Easton Mountain.
  3. Fill out the Application Form, which includes a short essay of less than 500 words as to why you would like to attend the program. Entries must be received by Friday, September 25 at 6:00 p.m. Eastern Daylight Time.
  4. Selection of the winner will be completely up to me, but you can increase your chances by having one or more of the following:

Please let your friends know about this great opportunity. I will be advertising this far and wide, but the more you let your friends know the better.  Even if they don’t win the weekend, I would recommend attending the event anyway.  The facilitators (Harry Faddis and Bob Bruillard) are great and I’ve been to many programs that they have facilitated.

Questions? Ask me below in the comments section!

I’m just returned from my vacation at Gay Spirit Camp at Easton Mountain, and am in that phase of trying to reintegrate myself back into my life here, but also integrate the special things I got from my experiences. I took some great workshops, met some great new friends, reacquainted myself with established friends, and really just tried to be in the moment and not have an agenda (granted my playful self had an agenda which was to not have an agenda.)

Here are some random thoughts about what I got out of the week-long retreat:

I, and about everyone in our society, is touch-starved. For a whole week, I would get a hug just about every 10 feet I would walk. The culture there is one of not denying the body as part of your spiritual self and safe, respectful touch is encouraged. I had some lovely hour long talks in the main hammock while cuddling with some new friends (thanks each to Scott and Jim) and also took a workshop on Hugging as a Spiritual Practice.

When we deny part of who we are, we are so much smaller for it. I took a great workshop on Respectful Confrontation with Joe Weston, and my major learning for myself is that I need to be on environments that let me be all there. That includes work, relationships, friendships, housing, activities, etc. I might not be big physically (only 5’7″) but I’m big energetically.  I need to be in spaces where I don’t deny myself that.

One of my main goals of the week was not to rush. I normally am very goal oriented and find myself in these weeks thinking “By the end of the week I’ll be relaxed “. I decided this time to try being relaxed the entire time. I limited myself to one workshop a day, made sure I had time for lying in hammocks or having a leisurely conversation.  I needed to practice this so that I can get better at it in the rest of my life.  I’m finding that practice comes up in every facet of my life, whether it’s music, exercise, relationships, work, anything.

What have you learned from this summer that you can take into the Fall? What are you practicing?

Ken Mattsson

Ken Mattsson

Ken Mattsson

I am a career consultant who specializes in the connection between what your spirit wants to do in the world, and how to marry that to the work that you do in order to support yourself. While I work with people in all fields, I specialize in working with "creative entrepreneurs" and the LGBT community.

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