I’m writing this on my trusty iPhone on the way home from a great workshop lead by Joe Weston at Arlington Street Church in Boston. The topic was an overview of his Respectful Confrontation workshop that he will be leading in Watertown, Massachusetts this weekend. I’ve been to three of Joe’s shorter workshops over the past few years and was very excited that he will be presenting his training on how to successfully engage with others from an open-hearted position here locally.

The basic premise of Respectful Confrontation as I understand it is that most of the time people speak from a position if fear and reaction, and therefore are more likely to not be fully present to the situation and can make most communication breakdowns by not keeping engaged in relationship with the people the are talking to, but trying to break down the relationship. Respectful Confrontation looks to teach people how to speak from a perspective of personal power so that they can stay in engagement and improve relationships. The guideline for this is not the Western approach of brute force, but power from a martial arts perspective. Joe states that there are four aspects to personal power:

  1. Grounding: Knowing where you are and having your feet firmly on the ground.
  2. Focus: Being in control of your emotions and being present to others
  3. Strength: Knowing what you want and intentionally sending it forward into the world.
  4. Flexibility: Having the ability to change things as needed and responding to what the world brings to you.

I know that Joe can explain it much better, and this is just a small sample of what I got out of tonight. If you are interested, there are still openings in the program and there may be discounts available.  I’m more than willing to talk with you if you are interested.

So, how are you communicating, and what are you doing to improve it?